Hi everyone who is trying to concieve. As you may already know from my previous postings; my hubby and i are trying to concieve for about three years now with no luck. Doctors have told us they dont know why we are unable to concieve as all tests are normal.
Last month i was 7 days! over my expected period date we were so so excited but i didnt even want to test just in case our hopes were shattered, i was about to do the test the next day but i started that night.
I was and am so so disapointed and now it has really got me down, i cant eat properly or sleep and i am always low.
My sweet huubby is taking me on a long break for six weeks so we can relax but i think we should just give up now i mean i can't handle the stress anymore.
Even now i am expecting my period to start within the next few days and i am panicking because i so dont want it to start.
I know i should pick my self up because there are people who have been ttc for longer than us so its not fair but i just dont think i can do this anymore. Everytime i see somone with a baby it upsets me which is silly.
when do you think is the cut off i mean after how many years is it right to give up on the dream of ever holding your own baby or is it a matter of never giving up?
I think the holiday sounds like a great idea and while you are there you should just spend lots of time with your hubby, read books, make love, drink wine and see what happens. Forget about charting, opks etc whatever it is that you normally do and just have lots of sex and sleep lots and take a break from it all. You never know what might happen if you are doing something different for a while.
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Shall we review the benefits? is not a depressed persons strength, right? Id say that was a fair trial, just like wed give an antidepressant.
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I got pregnant while on a 6 week holiday and we were using condoms (no breakages!)
Don't give up trying!
It's crazy...here you are, trying your hardest to get pregnant..and then on Yahoo answers, you see 13 year olds posting questions about how they became pregnant, whether they should or should not have the baby, and how they're so scared because their parents are going to find out and the kicker is...they weren't even trying to get pregnant in the first place!
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It's almost a joke, really.
Just as a little story, My husband and I tried to conceive for a while year. Last year around Thanksgiving time, it finally happened. I think it wasn't happening for a whole year because I was stressing so much over it. I kept thinking about the baby. I kept counting days, researching my ovulation charts, reading about all kinds of crazy methods to conceive a child. I had baby on the brain. Finally in November last year, I gave up. I had a move to think about. I had to pack things, clothes, furniture...had to get an apartment, start paying new bills with my husband, make a road trip to our new state..things were hectic and I forgot about baby-making, and somewhere around that time, it happened. I think when you are anticipating a child, your body isn't going to respond only because of how the stress hormones are high even though you don't know it. And this can even put your cycle off. It sucks, really. I have some really helpful sites for you though..you should check them out:
*Find out when you are ovulating:
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*Side effects of personal lubricants when TTC:
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*Tips for Conceiving:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article...
*Increasing chances of getting pregnant:
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Good luck..I know it's so frustrating...but it will happen. Like I said, we tried for a year..now I am a mom to a beautiful baby who was born in August 2008.
Might sound silly but try 2 forget about ttc, just make sure you are having sex 3-4 times a week. My fiance and I had been trying for a baby for a while and when it wasn't happening we decided to wait until after our Wedding & try again, we also decided to get a puppy. Turns out I fell pregnant the last time we had tried! So now its baby, puppy & wedding all at once :)
Hope your dream comes true soon!! xx
I don't think you should give up completely, but maybe you could take a break from TTC for a while, just to give yourself a bit of stress free time?
Hi Sofia,
My hub and i been trying 4 years and i was like you last year. I got fed up with the whole cycle. Period would arrive so i would cry for a week. Pick myself up, Ovulate so shag like rabbits (sorry :-D) get all hope-full, period arrives....its EXHAUSTING!!
I believe this is a stage we need to go through to reach acceptance. We still havent got a baby but it doesnt upset me anywhere near as much as it did. I often forget when my period is due and although i do get down and still make an effort around ovulation its not the same frantic pace anymore.
I dont know if you should give up, only you know the answer to that one hun. Have you thought about counselling? I went for some and it did help. I think perhaps you should go see your doc and tell him/her that you arent sleeping etc, it might be worth a referral. I took Kalms for a while too, they are a herbal remedy and they did calm me down a lot. Eventually something just clicked, i realised i was wasting my life being obsessed about babies. I also spend a lot of time on line chatting with other people going through the same stuff and it really helps to know youre not alone. I also enrolled on a course which takes up a lot of time. I hope just knowing i have been there and come through the oher side has been of some help, good luck to you x
p.s drop me an E Mail if you want a chat x
I know of someone who conceived after 10 years...and now they have 5 kids...
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