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My sisters boyfriend does this with my nieces and it makes me extremely uncomfortable. He holds them down and tickles them until they cry. He thinks it is funny and that it is okay, and he's not hurting them, but I think otherwise. He will tickle them for 5-10 minutes at a time, and stops when they are at the point where they can no longer breathe. I have interfered on many occasions, but always in a nice way(like "oh,no Aunt Sarah will save you" and I grab my niece from him) but I'm sick of being nice, it is starting to become a problem and it needs to stop. What, if anything, should I do? Or is it really not even that big of a deal, and not my place because they are not my children? I talked to my sister about it, and she said that is just how he plays with them, and its not a big deal. Am I over reacting?
Also, when the girls think they he is about to tickle them, they run away crying and hide. They hate it, that is the main reason why I am asking.
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And the girls are 3 and 17 months.
And we live in GA, if that makes a difference.
That's awful! How would he liked to be held down and tickled until he couldn't breathe? Those girls are going to end up fearing him ALL the time, not just when it comes to him trying to tickle them.
There are many people that have a fear of this. Does he really want to make this a life long fear for his children? Speak to your sister. If she doesn't do anything please say something.
You are absolutely right for stepping in & stopping this moron from abusing the kids. Try smacking him in the head with a baseball bat, then tell him, that's how I play with you!!!!
He's an idiot, stop him while you can!!!!!!
He's a control freak. I think it's a kind of abuse. He does it because he can. Your sister has to intervene, and tell him to knock it off.
Alot of people think it's ok, it's just tickling so what can it hurt. It does hurt the girls, they don't like it and it's not healthy.
Say something!! I HATE being tickeled and I always have. A little tickle every now and then is fine, for like a second on their tummy just to make them giggle, but he is taking it too far. Stand up for them and tell him to not do it anymore...if he keeps doing it then be firm and tell him he better stop and leave them alone and suggest OTHER things that make them laugh
I don't think its ABUSE but I do think its RUDE.
I wouldn't call it abuse...but it's not good to tickle kids to that point either. (especially if they dont want him to!)
I just to have tickle fests with the kids I nannied for...we called it "tickle the grouchies away" but I always stopped when they got too worked up and then switched to the next one. Transformers: Child's Play, a Transformers/Beast Wars fanfic ::
Nov 14, 2007 Well, the calm all up until they got a major energy hit. and practically tackled them to the ground and mercilessly tickled them both,
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Yes, it can be child abuse. I hated it when my mom did it to me and I got to the point where I would just wet my pants - after the first time I could just say I was going to wet my pants and she'd stop.
When we tickle our kids we only do it a little bit, then wait until they ask for more. That way we know everyone's having fun.
This guy sounds like a dick.He gets off on pushing around toddlers. Excessive tickling can also be a sign of a potential sexual abuser (I'm not saying he is, but check out the link below - it's a control thing, just like sex abuse is a control thing.) On the count of three: three, two, one | dooce ®::
P.s. I am calling Child WelfareChuck needs to be saved. . My dad did that hold-down-and-tickle- until-I-cried move when I was growing up.
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When they were born I used to tickle their little toes and fingers. The child stayed with her for two months until the family could get it taken away.
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It's not considered child abuse, tickling in general, (my mom's a child protection worker and her talking about what is and isn't child abuse is non-stop) and it isn't sexual abuse unless he's on top of them or tickling in private areas. But it is questionable parenting actions. A little tickling starting at a certain age is fine because kids enjoy it. Key word being little. At first, kids do have trouble breathing and can't verbalize when they want it to stop so it's safe to say a few second of tickling at a time is sufficient. As they get older and can tell them when to stop or make them stop is when it becomes more okay and then people just have to respect when they say to stop.
You don't say how old the children are but i'm assuming they're a young age and 5 and 10 minutes is far too long. Unless you go to the authorities, it's not really your place to tell him to change his parenting techniques. All it will do is make him defensive. Keep being nice and talk to you sister about it politely, not accusatory but just put in your opinion and let her take it from there.
Yes, it is not only child abuse it is sadistic and the tickler get pleasure out of this type of physical contact. He should be kept away from the children, if that is possible.
I remember being tickled like that - you do remember it! It's not a pleasant experience when the tickler takes it too far.
I believe anything that makes a person that uncomfortable is abuse. He has good intentions and based what you've said about him, he sounds like a great guy. Surely all he needs is a bit of a chatting to. Let him know they don't like it.
It's torture, and is child abuse, it can even be considered sexual abuse. Would you like to be strapped down and tickled?
As soon as a child says "no" it has to stop, period. Don't be nice, tell him it's abuse, if he doesn't stop tell him he will be reported.
Sometimes tickling can be used in a power struggle. The one doing the excessive tickling has his victims completely under his control while it is going on. They can't move, they can't get away, and they can't even explain why they don't like it since the tickler can always say, "Of course you did, you were laughing".
It is torture and it can physically hurt, but since it appears to be all "fun and games", it is a perfect way for someone prone toward control issues to exert power over the girls while appearing to be playful. Tickling can also be sexual, these girls may have difficulties in relationships if they have learned to hate that type of touching. However, I can imagine it would be difficult to report something like this to authorities unless you have something else to go on regarding their relationship.
it is child abuse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think that you and a couple of larger men should tie him down and tickle him for about five to ten minutes and see how he likes it. I would be willing to bet he would stop after that. My sister use to do this to her kids and it drove me crazy...but they would go back for more which is the only reason I didn't say anything.
This is from experience as the youngest child with 3 older brothers:
TICKLING DOES HURT AFTER A LONG TIME!!!
Some people might say they are crying because they are laughing so hard but what is really happening is the nerves are being overstimulated and it eventually becomes VERY painful. Like someone poking you with a hot iron. He needs to stop. THats just mean.
It IS child abuse....and it's mean.
Your sister should not allow him to do that....talk to her.
You are not over reacting....you're being a good Aunt.
Yes it is abuse. Tickling should be fun, not traumatic and should only be done when the child wants to be tickled. And Never to the point of crying. My 4yo loves to be tickled. She will ask her daddy to tickle her and she will laugh and laugh then she will say "ok ok stop daddy". And about 15 seconds later she will say "tickle me again!" He always stops just as soon as she says stop and would never tickle her if she did not want him to or if it was painful. I would talk to you sister about this and if that gets you no where I would talk to the boyfriend and ask him if he would like to be strapped down and tickled until he cried. If he continues to this the children will grow up to fear him if they haven't already.
It should be in my opinion. My brother and sister did this to me all the time when I was little and it really has affected me. It is okay to the point where the person says stop then you let them up, that is fine...but for extended periods of time and until the person cries..no. I really hate this. I seriously think that is child abuse. Why anyone would sit and let someone do that to their kids (especially ones so young) is beyond me.
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Holding a child down and tickling them until they cry, could it be considered child abuse?